In old days, there were no life coaches. In fact, business owners in Little Havana were forced to focus on the profit and the things which were required to run a business. Buy nowadays that scenario is changed and now business owners are focusing on return on investments, profits, customer value, and other goals. There are plenty of ways a business owner can improve their business but for the small or long-term success of the business, it required to get some feedback and consultation or coaching from the industry persons. By attending Business Coaching sessions, business owners can improve their business a lot. Below are the 3 ways through which business coaching can improve and deliver results in order to improve the business in a short term in Little Havana .
Little Havana Life Coach: Small Steps Can Lead To Success
It seems that everyone I meet these days wants to be a life coach. “My passion is to help people find their passion.” “My purpose is to help people find their purpose.” I hear this at many of the personal development retreats and career workshops I attend.
This is a noble and beautiful goal; to dedicate your life to empowering others to reach their full potential. In a world where 70% of Americans are disengaged with their jobs, and millions of people are depressed, unfulfilled, or addicted to prescription pain medication, we certainly need more coaches, enablers, and givers.
In 2012, the International Coach Federation (ICF) reported that life coaching is a $2 billion a year industry. Since there is wide disagreement on the value of professional coaching certification programs and many coaches don’t pursue formal training, this number is probably higher.
The problem I have with life coaches is not their lack of certification or qualifications. I have many friends who lack formal training, yet are excellent coaches. Furthermore, I’m not sure anyone can be certified in something as broad as “life coaching,” whether it’s a 2-week, 2-month, or 2-year program.
The problem I have with some life coaches is that they sell their life, disguised as a coaching product. Perhaps a result of the growing popularity of the lifestyle design industry, these life coaches spend more time trying to live and sell a lifestyle that suits them, rather than investing in the service they are allegedly providing to others.
I see a lot of life coaches post photos on Instagram of themselves on the beach or at yoga retreats with captions like, “Live life full! Be free! #lovemylife” These pictures are in places like Hawaii, Mexico, Costa Rica, and Bali — often at all-inclusive resorts or very pristine beaches. Usually the coaches are incredibly attractive people with tan skin who seemingly spend a lot of time at the gym or do yoga all the time (as in, like, every second of every day).
We should all strive to live a beautiful life (whatever that means for each of us), I’m just not sure the point is to sell that life. Depicting an idealized life that others should aspire to is dangerous. It misleads clients into thinking that their goal should be to emulate and idolize their all-knowing coach. It also misleads other coaches into adopting deceiving marketing practices and making false promises.
Here’s the thing: you don’t need to have a pristine life to be a coach. Coaching is about inquiry, asking the right questions, listening, empathy, and empowering someone to become their best self. I know many talented coaches whose life doesn’t look that great on social media — some of these coaches aren’t even on social media at all! They make a living because their clients recommend their services. They are talented coaches because they know how to coach, not because their life is perfect or they know how to run an auto drip campaign on MailChimp.
I don’t do much 1-on-1 coaching, because personally, given my background and lack of coaching training, I think I can provide more value writing, speaking, and doing workshops, but when someone approaches me about hiring me as their career coach, I ask them why they want to work with me. If they say anything close to “your life is awesome, I want your life,” I don’t respond to their email. Don’t get me wrong, my name is Smiley — I love my life. But it’s my life. It’s not intended to be someone else’s.
Trust me, my life isn’t for you. I have five roommates. My kitchen has a mice problem. My sink is constantly full of dishes. There are fruit flies everywhere. My bedroom is so small it barely fits my bed. I bring tea bags with me wherever I go to save the $3 (that adds up to like $60 a month!). I can’t for the life of me find a moisturizing cream that keeps my hands moist — I’ve tried like seven different kinds. I can’t drink coffee or alcohol anymore since I have really bad acid reflux. I love to do yoga but I fart a lot when I do it, so I can’t go to class more than once a week. My back is already starting to hurt — and I’m only 31!
These are the kinds of things I spend my time thinking about — it’s just not Instagram life coach worthy material. I can’t post a picture of me wallowing in back pain with the caption, “Love my life! #lifeisamazing. Sign up for my 3-step plan to fulfillment now — it’s only $495 — ahhhhh, my back!”
I refuse to sell some notion that my life is ideal or perfect — it’s inauthentic and it’s bullshit. I see some life coaches prancing around the beach and I’m like, “#Livefree?! You just quit your job! I know your ass is broke! Ahhhhh, my back!”
All of us (myself included) are sharing our highlight reels on social media, but I am immediately turned off by life coaches who make life seem easy or perfect in order to sell their product. These coaches give a bad reputation to talented coaches who have a tangible and valuable service to offer.
The coaches I know who make a living from coaching, don’t spend their days at the beach. They are on video calls with clients, working with executives and senior managers in office buildings, meeting with students at universities, and running trainings at leadership development programs. They don’t work 4 hours a week. They work 40 or 50 hours a week, sometimes more. Their life isn’t perfect (no ones life is perfect), but they are still a great coach.
When we depict an idealized life others should aspire to, we ignore the fact that most people’s lives are actually really complicated and nuanced. Most of the time, when people are “in flow,” “coming alive,” or “living with purpose,” they are not at the beach or sipping a green smoothie or doing endless yoga or traveling in a foreign country, they are studying in a dimly-lit library at 1 in the morning, sweating in a noisy warehouse, or a managing a classroom full of restless children. Or, they are cooking dinner for their family.
The goal of coaching (and personal development work in general) should not be to get people to ignore these day-to-day rituals, but to find more personal meaning in all aspects of their life. It’s not about escaping to the beach and posting a photo (#lovemylife!), it’s about finding meaning, purpose, and joy in the day-to-day (and sometimes mundane) rituals that make up our lives.
We need more coaches. More business coaches, relationship coaches, career coaches, leadership coaches, communications coaches, and even more life coaches. But we need coaches who are honest about the services they are able to provide to their clients (and just as authentic about the services they are not qualified to offer).
By all means, design your ideal life and travel to exotic locations—just be conscious of what it is you’re actually selling. I’m all for personal development retreats (even ones on the beach) that offer honest and practical solutions for navigating the complex and nuanced world we live in. I have participated in retreats that are extremely powerful; offering someone permission to be who they are, embrace their fears, overcome roadblocks and barriers, set new intentions, align work with purpose, integrate health and wellness into daily routines, and build a community of like-minded peers.
Life is not easy. There are no 3 simple steps to fulfillment or 10 ways to do anything. Happiness cannot be bought for $495 (or $4,095). There is not one answer and there is no quick fix, so let’s stop selling one.
Smiley Poswolsky is the author of The Quarter-Life Breakthrough: a guide for millennials to find meaningful work. Follow @whatsupsmiley and get free resources at smileyposwolsky.com.
Special thanks to my friends Peter Rubin (a business coach and relationship coach), and Lauren Weinstein (a consultant and coach) for reading a draft of this piece and offering feedback. If you are interested in learning more about pursuing coaching as a profession, I recommend reading Coaching is Calling, by Lauren Weinstein.
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You might be wondering why a business and life coach is writing about not getting hired. This article is a tribute to my personal journey over the past year in working with four different coaches — two professional coaches and two coaches-in-training.
It began in January 2015 when I embarked upon a Leadership and Life Coach training program with my respected friend and colleague, Barb Pierce of Coaching Horizons. There were three of us in the course who met weekly over a period of 10 months. We were coaching each other and clients from the get-go, which allowed me to gain practical experience right away and I was able to receive the benefits of coaching for almost an entire year.
Now I can understand the reasons why someone may NOT want to hire a coach.
Reason #1. You Don’t Want to Change
Change is a natural part of life. If we are not changing, we are not learning and growing. If you are very comfortable with the status quo and do not want to test your boundaries then don’t hire a coach.
A coach is a neutral person who supports you in your growth and will encourage you to see your blind spots that might be holding you back from making changes in your life. If you want different results, then you need to start by looking at yourself.
2015 was a big year of change for me, especially involving breakups — starting with a breakup of a significant relationship — and I was blessed with four coaches who helped me navigate these changes.
Early in the year, the coaching began with my colleagues and the topics I initially brought to the table I felt were pretty safe — when to start dating again, dealing with stress at work, navigating a challenging experience with a friend, etc. It was not long until I realised these were surface issues and the deeper discussion was about me being willing to look at myself openly and honestly, to notice how I was showing up in life and relationships.
As a typically very confident and independent person, it was difficult for me to admit my vulnerabilities in some of the sessions. I have a high respect for my colleagues who showed me this through their actions and words which inspired me to change myself, starting by allowing myself to be more vulnerable in front of others and learning that it’s ok to do so. As a coach, I should have all the answers, right? At least that’s what I previously thought. I’m learning as I go through this life journey, just as we all are.
Reason #2. You Want to be Told What to Do
Coaching is different from consulting. A consultant will typically analyse a situation then, based on their experience and expertise, advise you on what’s best for you, whether it’s in business or your personal life. If you want to be told what to do, step by step, then don’t hire a coach.
A coach will ask questions and will encourage you to examine your values and beliefs to see what’s really motivating you. As a coachee, you end up being accountable for your own actions and you get to set your own tasks that will support you in making the changes you need in order to achieve your goals.
Continuing with the breakup theme, about halfway through 2015 I decided to hire a coach to help me navigate a career change. I had been working in the tech industry for 15 years and felt I had accomplished a lot. I held an executive position in a great company with a wonderful team, yet I was feeling that something was missing. I felt that I had reached the tip of my learning curve and was craving something more. I was contemplating leaving my successful career to pursue coaching full-time, a scary decision at the time. I approached Crystal Lee of Beyond Maybe; as we had met previously, I already liked her as a person and I knew she had experience in working with people facing a similar situation as me.
Crystal did not tell me what to do in order to make this transition. Rather she encouraged me to look deeper at what was motivating me to leave my job and to venture into unknown territory. I asked her to not let me off the hook and to challenge me to keep the big picture in mind. I gave myself action items each time we met and she was there to hold me accountable throughout my journey.
Reason #3. You Are Not Willing to Take a Risk
Risks comes in many forms and are entirely unique to each person. When you are considering doing anything outside of your comfort zone there is some degree of risk involved. If you are not willing to explore possibilities where there is some element of risk then don’t hire a coach.
I’m talking about reasonable risk here. A coach will not blindly suggest you jump out of a plane (unless that’s what you really want to do!). Rather a coach is there to encourage you but also recognises your boundaries and will invite you to face your fears and to explore various possible outcomes.
At the beginning of my engagement with Crystal I was not exactly sure when I would be able to take the plunge to start my entrepreneurial journey, however after about five sessions things had really shifted. The coaching, combined with the tragic loss of a friend in September, was enough of a reminder to me that life is short and I needed to do something that made me really happy. So I took a big risk in December and decided to leave the comfort of my job to venture into the unknowns of entrepreneurship. A decision I’m very happy with so far!
I believe that everyone can benefit from having a coach at some point in their life to help achieve personal and professional goals. Had I not had the opportunity of working with my coaches in the past year I would hazard a guess that I would be repeating the same relationship patterns and probably still working a 9-to-5 job that I was not completely satisfied with. Having gone through my transformation over the past year especially I can relate to the fear and doubt that often creeps in when faced with making changes and I have learned how to overcome this by tuning into my inner wisdom, understanding the workings of my mind and by listening to my heart.
About Sarah Wall
Sarah is a Vancouver-based business and life coach, yoga teacher and Reiki master, serving local and international clients. It’s her mission to see you thrive and to help you create a life you love using simple tools that can make a difference today. For support in your journey towards living a purposeful and joyful life, or to learn more about her upcoming workshops, please visit Sarah at Body Mind Spirit Coach.
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